Recognising Abuse

Domestic abuse is physical, sexual, psychological or financial violence that takes place within an intimate or family-type relationship and that forms a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour. This can include forced marriage and so-called ‘honour crimes’. Domestic abuse may include a range of abusive behaviours, not all of which are in themselves inherently ‘violent’.

Anybody can experience domestic abuse regardless of their race, ethnic or religious group, class, disability or any other factor.

Domestic abuse can also take place in the lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender community, it can involve ex-partners and other family members, including children.



At Housing for Women we understand how difficult it can be if you are experiencing domestic violence or other forms of violence. You might feel scared, isolated and confused. You might feel too ashamed or afraid to tell anyone about your situation.

It is not easy to escape abuse but we understand how difficult and complicated it is and are here to offer advice and support.

Contact us on our confidential helpline on 020 8317 8273.

Are you being abused?

An abuser may use manipulation and various tactics to control both you and the relationship. This may make it hard to recognise what is happening. Some of these situations might be familiar:

  • Separating you from friends and family
  • Threatening to hurt the people you care about
  • Restricting your access to money
  • Undermining what you do to make you feel stupid and incapable of handling your own life
  • Moving things around so you can’t find them and making you believe that you’d done it and are absent-minded
  • Keeping you in the house with no unaccompanied access to the outside world
  • Forcing you to have sex on demand
  • Saying sorry, offering you hope that things will change, and then repeating the abuse again
  • Talking about you negatively to others or threatening to do so
  • Hitting, punching, kicking, restraining, or strangling you
  • Threatening you with guns, knives or fists without actually touching you
  • Shooting, stabbing or hitting a wall or furniture near you
  • Withholding food, care or addictive substances
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